When I go to parties and tell people that I’m a psychologist, people sometimes ask me about topics such as the meaning of dreams. You probably know plenty of people in your life who are really interested in dreams and their meanings. Or perhaps you’re fascinated in the content of your own dreams.
Some believe that dreams have hidden messages for us. For example, seeing a church or snakes or … Read more
Death. It really is inevitable. And it may seem like a strange topic for me to write about, given that I usually write about self-improvement, confidence, productivity, and so on.
But I recently read a book which I felt was rather profoundly important: Being Mortal, by Atul Gawande. Gawande is a surgeon who decided to investigate the modern experience of mortality.
I guarantee that this book will be … Read more
1. Set yourself manageable, specific actions.
Rather than saying something like “I want to lose weight” or “I want to be more outgoing,” decide on particular behaviours that you will demonstrate in certain circumstances.
For weight loss, you … Read more
Not long ago, a friend kept saying that she didn’t like her job and wanted to find a new one. But every time we met up, she said she was too busy (with work and also moving home) to look for a new job. For months, she talked about how frustrated she was with work but she didn’t actually do anything about it.
Sneakily, I applied a psychological technique to … Read more
In my E is for Exceptional book, I wrote about how we need to make time to expose ourselves to new stimuli, new knowledge and new experiences in order to remain creative and open to opportunities. I call this the skill of Awe: remaining in awe of the world around us and the need to learn.
A mobile phone company recently asked me to provide comment relating to a survey … Read more
Everybody struggles with motivation at least occasionally, right? The good news: there are some great, research-backed techniques for boosting motivation.
Perhaps you’re trying to coach colleagues at work to help them to be more productive. Maybe a friend or family member needs help to find a new job or lose weight. Or it could be you who is looking to summon up more motivation for your personal goals.
The … Read more
What are your goals for the next 12 months? Maybe you want to lose weight, eat more healthily or quit a bad habit. Perhaps you want to socialise more – or socialise less and study more.
A study published in the Journal of Consumer Research suggests a new way of setting goals. Suppose you want to lose weight. You could either set yourself a specific goal (e.g. “lose 10 pounds”) … Read more
Pretend for a moment that you had set yourself a goal at the start of the year to read 20 new fiction books by the end of the year. We’ve reached the end of June and you’ve already read 14 books. You’re already way ahead of your target! How would you feel?
Would you celebrate your accomplishment and the fact that you’re already 70 per cent of the way there? … Read more