Want to learn how to stand out?
I was invited onto the Talk Radio Europe breakfast show to speak about the inspiration for and content of my book How To Stand Out: Proven Tactics For Getting Noticed.
Our conversation covered lots of topics spanning lack of confidence, arrogance, childhood experiences, dating and even bringing up confident children. Some of the points that I think worth summarising:
- Remember that you can change at any age. Your level of confidence is somewhat determined by your childhood upbringing and early experiences. Part of your confidence and/or anxiety level is also due to your genes. Yet hundreds of studies have shown that adults of all ages can and do change their confidence level by practising psychological techniques.
- Be careful not to be taken in by what I call The Confidence Con. Other people can seem very confident on the outside but may be quite nervous on the inside. So just because other people appear so confident doesn’t necessarily mean that they are.
- If you want to stand out, be sure to think about what you say rather than focusing too much on how you say it. There’s a myth that body language and tone of voice account for the majority of your impact – but it’s really not true! So whether you’re trying to impress at a job interview, wanting to win over customers during a pitch or simply wanting to appear interesting on a hot date, be sure to prepare what you want to say. Have anecdotes highlighting your achievements for that interview; bring to mind examples of customers you’ve helped before; use stories to illustrate how you’re fun and interesting on that date.
- If you want to bring up confident, standout children, be careful not to praise them too much. Support them and encourage them. But also allow them to make mistakes and to fail. Otherwise, you risk turning your children into adults who don’t have the resilience and coping skills to deal with failure out in the real world.
There’s so much more in the radio interview itself. The interview is just over 12 minutes long. Just hit play below – and of course do feel free to share it with anyone you think who might be interested!
Want to stand out? Top tips for boosting your confidence as well as that of your kids. And a radio interview too http://t.co/LIyUx8adek
— Dr Rob Yeung (@RobYeung) September 13, 2015