Insight and advice
What makes you angry? Perhaps it’s rude or disorganised behaviour by your colleagues at work. Maybe you get angry about bad drivers or friends and family members who repeatedly let you down.
Anger can sometimes be a useful emotion. It can motivate us to speak up or act about injustices and wrongdoing. However, talking and behaving in a very angry fashion can be harmful to us – one study led … Read more
Unfortunately, there’s a lot of bad advice around online. So I decided I’d debunk four particular myths about success in life.
1. Successful people all get up really early every morning
I often see claims that all millionaires or CEOs or successful people get up incredibly early every day. But I know for a fact that it’s not true. When I was researching a book some years ago, I interviewed … Read more
A new research paper points to a small tip that may help you to be just a little bit happier.
In psychology, there are many chicken and egg questions in determining which came first. For example, do people smile because they are happy? Or do people become happy because they smile?
Alternatively, we can phrase those questions differently in terms of cause and effect. Does happiness cause people to smile … Read more
It’s easy to feel anxious, sad, irritated or otherwise negative when we find ourselves in difficult situations – but sometimes this is because of the messages that we tell ourselves (i.e. the beliefs that we have) rather than the reality of those situations.
I often hear friends as well as clients talking about themselves and their situations in ways that are more negative than their situations might actually warrant. To … Read more
What is NLP?
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a coaching methodology that was devised in the 1970s by Richard Bandler, John Grinder and Frank Pucelik. However, many evidence-based scientists and psychologists have been intensely critical of NLP, with some even adding it to a list of so-called “discredited treatments”.
After the creation of NLP, its ideas were mainly spread in the form of easy-reading books and training programmes aimed at helping … Read more
Three studies have shown that a simple trick can dampen down negative emotions AND boost mental performance. What’s the trick? Answer: sitting or standing with erect posture.
In the first study, scientists headed by Erik Peper at San Francisco State University asked 125 students to complete a mental mathematics exercise. Half of the students sat upright; the other half sat slumped while they completed the mathematics task.
All of the … Read more
What do you want out of life?
Yes, some people want to be successful. But many more people say that they would rather be happy and healthy.
At least part of being happier and healthier comes down to our attitudes. There’s a solid volume of evidence suggesting that being grateful may lead to both greater happiness and better health. For example, studies suggest that grateful individuals tend to report feeling … Read more
Want to be seen as more credible and impactful?
A lot of my one-to-one coaching clients want to make a stronger impact. Many of them come to me (either in person or via telephone/video chat) wanting to make a stronger impression during job interviews or when giving speeches and presentations. Others want to be more credible during client or business meetings – or even when dating.
If you want to … Read more
Do you want to get promoted?
If the answer is yes, then you need to read this piece and act on the advice. Doing your current job well is not enough to get promoted. People who get promoted tend to do more – they pursue promotions – they don’t just sit around waiting for promotions to be offered to them.
Click the image below to enlarge the article and read … Read more
A lot of my work involves job interviews. I have observed and trained literally hundreds of managers in how to interview properly. I also coach individual candidates to make a better impression during interviews. Here are four questions that candidates often struggle to answer well – as well as my advice on how to beat them:
“To begin with, could you tell us a bit about you please?”
Technically, this … Read more
- “I want close friends and family members to understand my weaknesses and flaws.”
- “I have a good understanding of why I behave the way that I do.”
- “I often assess myself critically.”
- “I want people who are close to me
In my consulting work, I get to meet, work with and interview so many interesting people. For example, I was introduced to Richard Canterbury. Someone suggested I interview Richard because he started a business from literally a market stall and has since turned it into an award-winning, multi-million pound business.
Here are just a few of his personal insights.… Read more
Is confidence something that you are born with – or can you develop it? The research (as well as my experience) suggests that it’s both. It seems that many personality characteristics and qualities have a genetic basis; however, our upbringing as well as what we choose to do as adults do affect how we continue to develop.
If you ever struggle with confidence in public settings, consider some of my … Read more
How would you like to earn around 10 per cent more every year – for the rest of your life?
A recent study led by Tilburg University researcher Jaap Denissen found that people’s personalities had a significant relationship with their earning potential. But the researchers did not find that certain personalities were better all of the time. No, they found that people earned more when their personalities matched the needs … Read more
When you fail at something, how long should you keep going? I often hear famous people saying that you should “never” give up on your dreams. But is that really realistic for most of us?
Say you want to be an artist or a TV presenter. Sure, you can keep applying for jobs. But if you’re not earning much money at all – how long can you keep going?
Some … Read more
What’s your strategy for having a productive day?
Unfortunately, a lot of ineffective people subscribe to the pinball method: allowing themselves to bounce from one task to the next, being diverted by requests and other interruptions as they come in, and generally being directed by other people’s whims. Clearly, that’s not a very productive way to get through life.
Instead, here are 5 research-backed methods for getting through your workload:… Read more